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Jessie Davis – It’s not about interracial sex, as Rachelstavern would have you believe!

It seems as if my post yesterday calling bullshit on a post from has really worked some people up.

I thought for a moment – asked myself if I was missing something – and then came to my senses. In doing so, I decided to search the archive for the earliest stories on the case that I could find. Here is one from the AP (posted 6/21). Interesting, no mention of race at all in the coverage, but there was this:

“The little boy told investigators: “Mommy was crying. Mommy broke the table. Mommy’s in rug.””


“Authorities have repeatedly talked with and searched the home of the man who fathered Davis’ son, although investigators have said Canton police officer Bobby Cutts Jr. is not a suspect. Cutts, 30, says he had nothing to do with Davis’ disappearance. The woman’s family also says he is the father of Davis’ unborn baby.”

Did they say authorities have repeatedly talked with and search the home of the BLACK man who fathered Davis’ son? Nope, don’t think so.

Ok, so that is one story… what else is there? has a story about the surveillance tape of Cutts at sports bar seized. Here is what they say about Cutts:

Cutts, a Canton police officer who was off-duty that day, came into Champs, a bar and restaurant on 30th Street NE, around 9:30 p.m. and didn’t leave until 12:30 a.m., according to bar owner John Shaheen.”

According the article was Cutts a BLACK police officer? No!

Now there are two random stories. Let’s take a third (just for shit and grins). This one comes from titled Details emerge about boyfriend’s whereabouts in missing mom case

“Early in the investigation, sheriff’s investigators said Davis’ boyfriend, Bobby Cutts Jr’s, alibi checked out. But when asked directly by a Canton newspaper reporter, Cutts would not speak of his whereabouts.”

Hmm…. No mention of Cutts being Davis’ BLACK boyfriend.

Mindy from the comment section put’s it best (spelling left as was originally posted):

interrational relationship has nothing to with the murder! I’m in a interrational marriage and have a mixed son just like Jessie Davis and my husband isn’t the sterotype rachel think he is. WHITE GIRLS get murdered every day while being pregnant or not by every race. Everyone is forgetting he is a police officer who killed his girl infront of his 2 year old son and then just left him to find for him self or maybe even die if no one found him.

Two out of the three stories do mention that Cutts is a police officer, one mentions the comments the son made… and NONE mention race.

Let me be very clear here. I DO think racial tension exists in the U.S., I just don’t think this case (as shown by the media when first reported) had anything to do with interracial sex. Sorry, Rachel, your claim that this is about interracial sex just doesn’t hold up. If there is anyone making this a racial story, it’s Rachel.

Update – please don’t complain that I didn’t take a random sample in my search for news stories. I did an ‘advanced search’ on google news with a date range from 5/19 to 6/23. The earlies stories came in on 6/21 and I pick three random from pages 1, 5 and 7.


Debbie @ Right Truth – Get well soon

So, Debbie over at Right Truth was having surgery today.

I wish her the best and hope all is well.  The world needs more bloggers like her!

Relating to depression

If you no understanding of a topic, how are you going to relate to they topic?  Yes, one can do their best to explain what a TV is, how a person interacts with the TV, and the potential pleasure and pains that can come from owning a TV, but if you have NEVER had the ability to actually see a TV there is no way you can truly understand the experience.  The same can be said for many things, but this seems especially appropriate with sickness… like depression.

Depression, much like any experience, is different from person to person.  Some people claim that depression causes them to be unable to sleep, others say there is a physical “heaviness” that can be felt in the body, and many others claim to have a sense of hopelessness or dread.  In many cases, I’ have no doubt people experience these feelings in some combination and to varying degrees – along with many other sensations that I have even suggested.

I have close friends that were completely incapacitated by a bout with depress.  They couldn’t go to work or interact with people. Daily life and activities became such a pain such a bother that, at the very basic level, their only concern was how they were going to make it to the next hour.  Literally, they began to live life from hour to hour, situation to situation, in order to survive.

Listening to these individuals explain what they are feeling and hearing completely irrational thoughts from highly educated people is scary.  As you have conversations with someone afflicted with depression you begin to see that the person you are talking to is almost a shell of who they once were.  I can have sympathy for what they are going through, I can offer to assist in any way, but they have become someone different, if only for a time being.  They have become someone I cannot relate to… and that is the point.

If you haven’t experienced it first hand, for yourself, you cannot truly say what the experience is.  And, if you can talk about the experience first hand you should not pass judgment on the condition.

Dealing with stress and life

All of us – students, police officers, waitresses, actors, and programmers – cannot avoid the inevitability that we have to face on a daily basis: stress. Add in the fact that we have person (non work/activity related) stress and life can seem overwhelming at times. If not properly addresses, stress has the ability to develop into other wonderful, heart warming things, such as depression or anxiety. So, in order to stay off a serious mental health issue, what is one to do?

Well, the first (and obvious) answer is cut down the level of stress in ones life. Have a very stressful job? Get a new one. Are unhappy in your relationship? Get out. Don’t like dealing with people? Find a situation that allows you to have minimal contact with individuals. I understand that you may have built a life based on your current situation, so making a drastic change won’t be that easy. If you have gotten used to making $150K a year, it will be very difficult to change your lifestyle to live on $50K.

Maybe that big mortgage will have to go away or you’ll have to stop dining out on a regular basis. No matter how you look at it, if you have making a drastic change in your life, you will have to adjust most, if not all, aspects of your life. I know that this easier said than done, but the fact of the matter is sometimes change is the only way.

But what if you don’t want to make a change or there is absolutely no way to make a change? I would suggest finding some healthy activity to release that stress. Join a volleyball league, volunteer, do yoga… whatever! Find something that allows you to decompress and let the stress level lower.

Notice the key word in the paragraph above – healthy. I understand it is easy to find an escape in food, buying things, sex, alcohol or hard core drugs. If you take this approach you are not address the issue, rather masking what is really going on in your life. Chances are, doing so will increase the severity of your condition as well as create a difficult and unhealthy situation for those around you.

If you must have a situation in your life that is overwhelmingly stressful, and you cannot remove yourself from it, and no matter what release you attempt, it’s time to find professional help. There is nothing wrong with it.

Visit Right Truth (also on the Blogroll)

Take some time to head on over to Right Truth – Debbie has a wealth of information on politics, Iran, Iraq… if it’s going on in the world right now, she has coverage.

Great job, Debbie!

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